Bitter Boots

 December is always a time of reflection for me. Once Hell Week is over and exams are done, I get to home home, relax, and think about what the year has taught me. This past December went a little beyond reflection for me though, as I found the resolve I needed to start my quest for a stronger relationship with God.

As it stands, I feel that college has helped me learn myself pretty well and I know that one of my biggest personal challenges is managing my frustration when it’s combined with long-term stress and aggravation from outside sources. I’m not perfect and I know the best thing  I can do (for myself and others) is learn to manage the way I handle situations that trigger angry responses…Which brings us to my journey with God.

Walking with Him has made me more aware of not only my daily actions but my thoughts as well and that’s half the battle. Ever heard the phrase “Change your mindset, change your life”? Acting takes thought and consideration. If your mind isn’t quite in the right place to act on frustrating situations…well you guessed it…you’re not going to handle them in the best way possible. The scripture I posted in the picture above is one of the most helpful I’ve come across since I started my year-long Bible plan. I’d read it one day and- I kid you not- two days later it was the first thing that came to mind when one of my roommates thought it best to get snippy with me unnecessarily, after weeks of nit-picking. Taking the time to strengthen my bond with God allowed me to keep my head leveled when I could have very well (and justifiably) gone off the deep end. Hearing this scripture repeated in my mind kept me from giving foothold to the Devil.

I’m sure that if you’re human, there have been times when you’ve had trouble deciding whether or not you should turn the other cheek or go to the other extreme. Be it the aggravating kid that kicked you in the leg at the grocery store and his negligent parents, the irritating co-worker that likes to work your nerves more than their actual job, or the roommate that loves to pick fights with you…you’ve had the test and either passed or failed.  It takes time and patience to change your mindset enough to start passing more than you fail, and I’d be remiss if I didn’t remind you that through Christ, all things are possible.

If you find yourself in need of a mindset make-over, my recommendation is that you try talking to God about your situation, praying for answers, and putting the Bible app to use. Sometimes it takes more than advice from friends and parents to create the shift in your attitude that you’re looking for. It takes some soul searching and a commitment to yourself and God that you’ll start handling the people and situations in your life with more care. But fret not! It’s possible. Create a plan to reach your goal and take it day by day. Believe me when I say the trials will come… But You Can Do it!

Do it for You.

imageThis is for all the people who identify with this IG post I kept seeing a couple weeks ago….since Today is February 1st:

After an unexpected breakup of sorts a few months ago, and about 5 failed attempts at rushing my Annual Soul Search, followed by a long talk with my mother and The Lord in December about where my young adult life was headed, I decided to get myself together for the new year, and for good.

So far, what I call my “21st year glow up” has been going nice and….well I can’t say “easy,” but definitely not bad. I’ve been steadfast in my journey of Faith…I’ve been getting over the sad ending of an interesting situationship more each day…and I’ve been trying to keep my composure as the world grows more ludicrous!

Last year I really struggled with sticking to my goals and taking care to see things through, but before this year started I made a promise to myself that I’d get it together and keep it together. I’m pretty good at keeping promises (mainly because I’m smart enough not to make them) so if nothing else, I can at least see to it that I keep the promises I make to myself. I owe Me that much.

I’m sure if you’re reading this, I’m not too far off the mark by saying you may have made some sort of growth-related resolution for the New Year. I also don’t think I’d be remiss in saying that although it’s only a month and some change into the year, even the little we may or may not have kept up consistently hasn’t been easy. But at least you’re not alone.

After contemplating a little the other day about some of my personal goals (which include but are not limited to getting my GPA back up and drinking more water), I began to wonder when I started to get so soft on myself. I used to expect a lot more from Me. And as soon as I was about to beat myself up for not being where I want to be, I heard my inner voice clear as day, saying “You’re not going to be where you want to be overnight Simone. Every small victory is another step to completion. You don’t start out at the end.”

Now if you’re like me and have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that life isn’t an episode of one of your favorite Netflix Originals, with all the little elements of nicely-written predictability you like…..you’ve also dabbled in the fears of not knowing the outcome of your future which scares you half to death most of the time and keeps you up at night for the rest of it…You’re constantly having to tell yourself to stop freaking out and “get a grip.”

Here’s my suggestion:

Remember that you’re only human and that if you let it, being only human can be a great experience. You WILL make mistakes, and that’s perfectly fine as long as you’re learning from and evolving past them. Make plans, see how they work out, change your course of action, and try again. We’re young and life is about evaluation and elevation. Keep in mind that no matter how far we get in life, we’ll never know it all…..but we can enjoy figuring it out…So keep pushing!

#Tbt Webisode from WakeUp to This

So since it’s Throw Back Thursday, I figured that I’d revisit my very first post for my mini-series last summer called Wake Up to This! I can’t wait to share the new topics with everyone!

I’d love for you all to comment topics that you’d love to see featured on Simone Says!